Floggers are one of the most popular BDSM toys, and one of the easiest to use. Floggers are impact play (aka consensual hitting), and with that sentence I am reminded that we have not discussed impact play here. Well, adding that to the ‘to-do’ list.
A flogger is made of multiple strips of material attached at a handle. The material can be soft suede, leather, to steel tipped chains – however, the most common is some form of suede or leather. You can purchase floggers almost anywhere, but I always recommend to buy one when you can hold it. That way you can feel the heft and how it feels in your hand, plus you can practice throwing it to see if it matches your arm movement. If you must order online, be prepared to send it back if you don’t want it. In short, be choosy.
Most floggers are used on the back, and the rules of impact play apply here. Stay away from the coccyx area, and be aware of your partner’s pain level. Floggers rarely break the skin, but if you are using a flogger with any metal on the strands or tips blood is likely, and you should prepare your play space for that.
Now to use the flogger, position the bottom (the person getting flogged) where they are well grounded, topping over during a scene is a real mood killer. Flogging scenes are most common with the St. Andrew’s Cross, where the bottom can lean against the wood and brace themselves. The top (the person who will be doing the flogging) should have shown the bottom the flogger, and negotiated safe words before beginning the scene.
Floggers are a pain instrument, but the top can control how hard they use the flogger and therefore the intensity. To throw a flogger, stand with your feet rooted and bring the flogger up and then down on the back. You might have to adjust your distance and intensity during the first few throws, but once you have the hang of it, you can move around the areas of the back by moving your arm. If you are nervous, practice on a pillow, or on an empty St. Andrew’s Cross.
I know it’s tempting to go flogging down to the butt, but this brings me to one of the cautions – wrapping. Avoid it. Wrapping is when the ends of the flogger wraps around a part of the body, usually the rib area. There are two reasons; you always want to know where the ends of the flogger hit, since they cause the most sensation. When the flogger wraps, you lose sight of those ends. Two – the ends might accelerate faster than you meant, and increase in the pain. So if you do flog the butt, make sure you getting full contact and have no wrapping.
Another caution, until you become more precise with the flogger, stay away from the upper shoulders – this is to protect the head.
With all that said, floggers can produce a pleasurable sensation and some stingy pain. There are two techniques to flogging; single stroke and cyclic flogging. Single stroke is just what it sounds like, a single strike at a time. You can use forehand or underhand to throw the flogger, each will yield different strikes and different sensations. Cyclic flogging is when the strikes tend to flow – think of doing a figure eight with your hand. Both of these are single hand flogging techniques. Most often, you will use both techniques, but if I am striking really hard (or with a flogger with stiff strips) I will use singe stroke so that the bottom can voice their pleasure, and have a bit of time to recover before the next strike.
There is a double hand technique called Florentine Flogging. In this method, you use two identical floggers – one in each hand – to do continuous flogging strokes. It’s rather hard to describe, and we will have a demo on this in the near future.
Flogging is one of those things that you have to get in and do it, plus practice always help. Flogger come in all shapes and sizes, choose one you and your partner will enjoy and try it out!
Until next time!