Butt plugs have been around a long time. Let’s face it, since the dawn of time, we’ve been putting stuff up our butts. I feel like there is whole section of mythology where the moral of the story is “You CAN stick it up your butt, watch!” Probably Greeks. They were freaky.
However, it is always best to stick things up your butt that have been designed to be there, and lucky for us there are so mannnnyyyy!
Here is the word of caution when doing anal play – get something that has a flanged or flare bottom. When you start messing around with lube and small things and a hole – well things get sucked up like a pneumatic tube. Flanges and flares are your friend. Items with a place to put your finger in and hold on to the instrument, but let’s keep it simple. (If something goes wrong and you lose something up the anal passage, go to the ER. Stow your embarrassment and learn from your mistakes.)
Next, what type? No, no, no glass. As for other materials, work what’s best for you. I recommend silicone, since rubber, vinyl, and latex allergies abound.
Next up – size. Always start small. Do not go out and by the glorious steel, bejeweled behemoth – nothing good will from that. In fact, if you have never had anything up your butt, have your partner use one finger, and then two, before even starting with the plugs. This is best, but if you skip this step, don’t worry, it’s not mandatory.
So you have a small butt plug (with a flange), and some lube – Now what?
Not drawing a diagram here, folks. You know where it goes. You can do it solo or you can have a partner do it, either way get it in there and see how it feels. Then try it out during sex. You will find all kinds of new sensations since your ass is pretty sensitive. If you are using butt plugs as a step stair to anal penetration, then make sure you do not move up in size until you feel you are ready. When you are start the same way every time – slow and well-lubed, inserting first outside of sex before trying to do it during the sweaty mamba time that is sexual intercourse.
If you’re a guy, getting a curved anal play toy will help stimulate the prostrate, but we will write about prostate play at another time.
The most common way to use a butt plug is to have a partner insert from behind, and move it in and out to stimulate the anal nerves. Take it form me, the orgasm from this is intennnssseee and awesome!
When you’re done, clean up yourself and the toy for the next time you use it.
Move on up to the size you are comfortable with, and as long as you aren’t fisting on a regular basis, take care with your toys, use the right size – you won’t have any damage.