(This post on sexual education facts is from Submissive Feminist, you can find her blog here.)
- Condoms are only 98% effective when used correctly.
- Sugar can cause infections in the vagina. This means things like chocolate sauce, honey, and lubricants with glycerin can be harmful.
- Having sex with an intoxicated person is legally rape in most US states, even if the person verbally consents. In the eyes of the law, drugs and
- alcohol impair your ability to consent to sex.
- Unprotected anal sex is the most dangerous sex act when it comes to spreading STIs.
- Not everyone can climax from oral sex or even likes oral sex. Don’t assume—ask your partner what they want!
- Condoms expire! Check the date on the wrapper. Also, storing them in wallets is not a good idea (see #8)
- If someone with a vagina has unprotected anal sex, semen can drip down into the vagina and pose a (slight, but still real) risk for pregnancy.
- Do not keep condoms in your wallet. The friction and heat exposure of keeping them there can make them ineffective. Keep them somewhere cool, dry, and out of sunlight.
- You should be tested for STIs with each new partner you have. Annual appointments are not enough protection if you have multiple partners in that time.
- Having anal sex does not lead to a gaping asshole unless your partner is literally an elephant.
- Sex with elephants is illegal. Don’t do that.
- Masturbating while wearing a condom can help people with penises get used to wearing them before sex.
- Penis size does not define your worth. It is not the be-all, end-all factor for most people.
- In fact, lots of people with large penises have trouble having sex without hurting their partner since the average vagina size is 6”-8” when aroused (it’s only 3”-4” when not aroused!).
- Your first time will almost definitely not be your best time. That’s okay, I promise.
- Herpes and pubic lice can still infect you if a condom is used if testicles come in contact with a vuvla.
- Only one out of three people can orgasm from receiving vaginal penetration alone. You’re not broken.
- People with penises can orgasm without ejaculating.
- The muscles in a vagina can be abnormally tense and cause intense pain when penetrated with a toy, penis, or tampon. This is called vaginismus and treatment for this includes relaxation therapy and using medical rods to help the muscles relax.
- The number of sexual partners you have does not define you. This rule applies to all genders.
- A diet of lots of dairy and meat can cause ejaculate to taste bad. Fruits that are very sweet (like pineapple) help combat this for some people.
- However, due to body chemistry, medications, and other factors, it might not always do the trick.
- Dental dams make oral sex with someone with a vulva safer. They are thin sheets of latex and can be home-made by cutting the ends off a condom and slitting it lengthwise to make a alternative option if you don’t have access to dental dams.
- The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings in it. That’s twice that of a penis! So, go gently until encouraged to do otherwise.
- Sex does not have to stop when someone ejaculates. Remove any condoms or clean up any mess, and keep going until everyone is satisfied!
- Communication is the number one factor to a better, healthier sex life.
- The hymen is not a bone, and does not break. It is a membrane layer that stretches. It can tear, which can lead to pain and bleeding. However,
- sex for the first time (or ever!) should never hurt. Go slower and focus on foreplay to increase natural lubrication.
- Sexuality is fluid for a lot of people. Don’t worry about labels until you’re sure in your sexual and romantic interests. Explore freely and worry about terms later.
- Orgasms release hormones that are natural pain-killers. This is why some menstruating people masturbate when they have cramps, because the body naturally reduces pain after an orgasm.
- The hormones released also account for why some people cry or get very emotional after an intense orgasm. It’s totally normal.
- There are limitless kinks in the world and so long as they are safe and consensual, there is nothing wrong with them.
- Medications and mental health disorders can mess with your sex drive. Talk to your doctor if your sex drive has suddenly increased or decreased after starting a medication—there may be alternatives.
- There is nothing “un-manly” or “gay” about enjoying anal play. Most men who try anal enjoy a little sensation in that area. People with penises also have a p-spot (prostate) and can have intense orgasms through anal penetration.
- Always use lubrication generously to avoid vaginal or anal tearing.
- Urinating after sex can reduce the risk of a UTI in people with vaginas.
- Enjoying casual sex does not make you a bad person if you are up-front with your intentions and don’t maliciously seek to hurt others.
- Condoms come in multiple sizes! It should never be loose or painfully tight.
- Being sex-positive does not mean that everyone needs to enjoy sex. It simply promotes the happiness and sexual exploration (or non-exploration) of others.
- Porn is not an educational guide to sex.
- Certain positions feel better than others. Switch it up and find out what works for you and your partner(s).
- Condoms are more likely to break if you don’t leave a reservoir tip for ejaculate.Labia are often asymmetrical. Your long/uneven/poofy/dark labia are beautiful and there is nothing wrong with your body.
- Up to 80% of people with a vagina can squirt with either g-spot or clitoral stimulation.
- Drug store pregnancy tests are just as effective as brand name ones. In some cases, they’re even MORE effective.
- Elevating your butt with pillows can make missionary sex easier for those of us with a big tummy or thick thighs.
- Plan B does not work on people over a certain weight (160-175lbs).
- There are safe alternatives to condoms or oral contraceptives. Talk to your doctor about your options.
- Sex toys can open up a whole new world to folks willing to explore.
- Orgasms can be highly psychological. Most people can’t climax when they’re upset or distracted.
- Birth control can cause people to miss periods or spot in between periods.
- Sex doesn’t have to be gentle if you don’t want it to be. There are healthy ways to explore rough sex or BDSM.
Some more terrifying thoughts –
These are states that don’t even require sex education.
And these are states that require abstinence-only education.
Did you know that most states don’t even require its sexual education to be true? Medical accuracy isn’t required in these states:
And that’s why blogs like mine and “Submissive Feminist” are important.