The definition of a slut is “a woman who has many casual sexual partners” It’s synonyms are prostitute or whore, both of which are degrading terms for women. But women do identify as sluts, and those that do are very different than what you think they are. For the purpose of this article we will be using the term Self Identified Sluts (SIS) because I think it’s better and for no other reason.
1 – Anybody goes – Just because you like to have sex, doesn’t mean you will have it with anybody who is offering. I love chocolate cake, but I don’t buy chocolate cake from Wal-Mart. Catch my drift? In fact, if you’re into girls, that standard doesn’t change if you really like to have sex. Same for any other preference.
2 – Diseases – Sexually liberated women often practice the most safe sex. Think about porn stars and their vigilance with STDs, the same applies to SIS. We could all learn something from them.
3. They feel ashamed – What an outdated notion! “The Walk of Shame” and all that. Not only do SIS not feel bad about what themselves, they are getting plenty of sex, so they feel awesome. This video by Amber Rose sums it up.
4. They dress for you. They really don’t. If I dress up for Halloween as a vampire, it doesn’t mean I want someone to offer me a pint of blood. It’s alright if you know a women to tell her she looks nice, but don’t view a women’s clothes as an invitation. Unless the invite you are looking for is a drink in the face, then by all means go ahead.
5. You can call them sluts – No. Not ever. A woman may feel sexually empowered enough to label themselves a ‘slut’, but you don’t get to say it. It’s too much like an insult, and I got a hard and fast rule: YOU DON’T GET TO COMMENT ON A WOMAN’S SEX LIFE. Not ever. Words have power, and if women want to take back that power for themselves they get to do so, but others do not get to decide about that.
What have we learned? Women can be sexually empowered enough to call themselves sluts, and that’s awesome. But no one else gets to call them that, or look down on them because they like sex.
Got it? Awesome!
Keep talking that taboos!