5 Myths About…Asexuals

Define your terms. Asexual – “someone who does not experience sexual attraction.”

#1 Asexuals can’t have relationships
False. Romantic love and sexual desire are two different things.

#2 Asexuals just can’t have sex.
Nope. Ability has nothing to do with it. It’s about desire. It’s like you seeing a guy (or girl) and thinking “Gee, he’s super nice, but I don’t really want to jump his bones.” Now imagine you feel that way about everyone.

#3 Asexuals don’t masturbate, have sex, or are virgins.
Just because you don’t have the sexual attraction most feel doesn’t mean you don’t have some sexual need (though it can). Many asexuals have partners and will engage in sex, but do so without the sexual desire non-asexuals feel.

#4 You just don’t know what gender you are
Asexuality is not associated with gender issues. See my post of 5 Myths About Transgender

#5 Asexuals just don’t know how awesome sex can be
This one makes me laugh, hard. One of the most sexual literate people I know is asexual. There’s no cure, no pill, no amount of sex that will ‘cure’ asexuality.

Great resources for Asexuality

(these sources are complied from this blog)

Required Reading:  Articles that everyone should read.

Asexuality in the Media:  By request, I compiled a list of media featuring ace characters here, and here are links to other forms of media people have recommended to us, and other posts on the subject. x x x

Aromantic Resources:  People and places that people with questions about being aro may find helpful.


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  1. Thank you very much! (and I am sorry I didn’t mention demi-sexual in my post! I tolatly forgot about that) I agree that asexuals are more misunderstood than homosexuals. Although I think that asexuals are still a bit better off; for example while a homosexual is often beaten up and such when they walk hand in hand with their lover, you can’t see on the outside that an asexual is asexual, so they have less experiences with violence towards their (a)sexuality.But still it is a good thing to give this subject more exposure!@ Rooz: Thank you very much! 😀 I am glad you found it interesting! And yess, I can understand that some terms are not usual to most people. :p@ Cody: Thank you! I am glad my post inspired you to be more open about your personal life. ^_^ I can inmagine that having an interest in BDSM isn’t something you’d like the world to know about since a lot of people find it weird because they don’t really know what BDSM really is. But you can always use your blog to share the positive side of BDSM, taking away the prejudice of them being all weird and crazy people. :p (Personally I find BDSM very interesting; especially the part that you really have trust your partner in those plays)


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